It was said that many people are often mistaken for love because people rationalize the crazy feelings they are having. They assume that it must be love if the other person is always on their mind. According to studies, the relationship of love has different dimensions, and the worst of it is when you mistake obsession for love. The people who are obsessed with their feelings tend to consider their obsession towards their object of desire as their love. They would rather attempt at tying down the other person instead of understanding their emotions and needs.
Although those who are obsessed with love offers their time and self just to get and have their desired person it was never a relationship of a mutual person caring each other. It was a relationship of power, a display of brutishness and a game of ego. As Scott Peck wrote in his inspirational book The Road Less Travelled (Arrow New-Age).
“Love is not a feeling. Love is an action, an activity... Genuine love implies commitment and the exercise of wisdom... love as the will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth... true love is an act of will that often transcends ephemeral feelings of love or cathexis, it is correct to say, 'Love is as love does'”. He also said that love is a mysterious thing even in the best of times. He identifies some of the myths of `falling in love' and romantic love that our culture through various means idealizes, leading to great dissatisfaction when we do not achieve the desired feelings or situations. Peck makes the assertion that love is not really a feeling, but rather an action or activity that involves a lot of risk-taking, of risk of independence, of commitment, of confrontation, and of loss. True love requires discipline and recognition of the needs of the self and others to live happily ever after.